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FamilyLight plans a series of articles at this location addressing common areas of teen misbehavior.  The title is from the Ian Dury "punk rock" song from the 1970s which perhaps highlighted the teen behaviors most likely to irritate adults then and perhaps now.  This section is currently being developed.  It will include articles on teenage sex and substance abuse and other concerns. 

We want to make one general point that some may dispute and others may agree with after finding the comment startling:   Some teenage misbehavior is developmentally important.  This does not mean we endorse dangerous behavior.  It does not mean we endorse any specific form of misbehavior a teenager might choose.   However some parents wisely choose some behavior they genuinely dislike, make sure their teenager understands that the behavior at issue is off limits, then also make sure that the disciplinary control is not quite so tight at to completely stamp out that particular behavior. We do not suggest that all matters of discipline should be taken so lightly.  But to let the teenager experience this degree of independence on at least on item can be beneficial. 

Now that we have irritated you, we move on to a further matter where we think a lot of unnecessary problems arise:  While we clearly oppose substance abuse and promiscuous sexual activity, we believe that the emotion these issues generate lead to extensive counterproductive parent activity.   We support effective parent action to minimize or eliminate such behavior.  We believe that parent actions under emotional stress are not likely to have that result. 

To be further developed.

Stay tuned!

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Disclaimer: No  program review, no matter how positive, is a blanket endorsement. No criticism is a blanket condemnation.  When we express our level of confidence in a school or program, that is our subjective opinion with which others might reasonably disagree.  When we assert something as fact, we have done our best to be accurate, but we cannot guarantee that all of our information is accurate and up to date. When we address compliance with our guidelines, you need to remember that these are only OUR guidelines -- not guidelines from an official source.  We have also set the bar very high, and do not expect any school or program to be in total compliance.  It is not appropriate to draw a conclusion of impropriety (or even failure to live up to conventional wisdom) from our lack of confidence in a school or program or from less than perfect conformity to our guidelines.  Some will say we expect too much. Readers are responsible for verifying accuracy of information supplied here prior to acting upon it. We are not responsible for inaccuracies.


Last updated 6-6-2012


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